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Ball Gags – Recommendations and How to Use Them – Ask Olivia

Hi Olivia!

I really appreciate your previous posts.

This is not a problem per se, I just need some guidelines.

My girlfriend likes BDSM, in particular she likes to play with ball gags, they are a fetish for her. I have no experience whatsoever when it comes to ball gags, but I’m willing to learn.

It sure helps to see and feel my girlfriend’s excitement every time we play with a ball gag.

Since I love to make her happy, it would be great if you can give me some ball gag recommendations. I’m planning to start a collection so my girlfriend has a lot of different ball gags to choose from.

What are your best tips and recommendations when it comes to playing with ball gags? How do we do this in a fun and safe way? And which ball gags do you recommend me to get?

Any additional thoughts are highly appreciated.

Thanks,

Alf

My Ball Gag Recommendations

Hi Alf!

Great question.

Sounds like both you and your girlfriend are open to exploring.

There is something sexy and indulgent with a collection. We can all take a note on that one.

You touch on another important insight, if your partner is into something, their excitement might turn you on and give you a more favorable view of that particular thing or role. Thus be open to what your partner thinks is sexy. You may learn something new about yourself.

Before Playing

There are a couple of things to consider before you start playing with ball gags. First of all, have a conversation with your girlfriend about ball gags. Ask yourself a couple of questions. For your girlfriend, those questions can for example be why she likes ball gags? Why do they turn her on?  

You should also explore if there are some things that make her or you feel insecure about the situation? Is there something you don’t want to experience when it comes to ball gags?

This will give you a better idea of how exactly to fulfill this side of your girlfriend’s sexuality. Also make sure to tell her about your feelings. If it makes you excited to see her excited, tell her so.

I also recommend everyone that uses a ball gag on their partner to try one themselves, if only for a couple of minutes. By doing this you will get a feeling for how it is to be gaged. This will help you arrange the play in a more suitable way. You will become better at playing with your girlfriend, while at the same time respecting her boundaries.

Time to Play

When you play with ball gags you have to have a gesture instead of a safe word. Since the charm with a ball gag (or any other form of gag) is that you can’t use your voice. This makes it extra important that the person with the gag ball can communicate their feelings in a way that is easy to notice.

When you do a role play with ball gags it’s also really important to keep checking in with your partner. Always be sensitive to their experience and their non-verbal communication.

Don’t gag a person with a cold, sinus congestion, runny nose or upset stomach. And never ever leave a gagged person unattended, regardless of the situation. Stay safe and have fun.

And now, let’s all dive into the exciting landscape of ball gags.

Sex & Mischief Silicone Lips Gag

If you never tried ball gags before this is a good starting point. Since it’s actually not a ball gag but an open mouth gag some beginners prefer this type of gag. You get all the fun of the game, but you can still breathe. Even people with a lot of experience when it comes to ball gags enjoy this user-friendly, relaxed way to play with ball gags.

This particular version has a vegan leather strap that’s easy to adjust depending on the size of the head. The gag itself is made of body-friendly silicone and will fit perfectly around your partner’s teeth.

The Luxurious Alternative

This ball gag is great because you can start the play with your girlfriend being able to breathe through her mouth. And as the play advances you can insert the rose and your girlfriend will get a strong ball gag experience. The ball gag is both cute and sexy and topnotch quality with Italian leather and a silicone rose.

Non Breathable Ball Gag For Beginners

Here is another alternative, this is also a great beginner ball gag, just without the possibility to breath. The ball gag is comfortable, thanks to the silicone, you can bite into the ball if you want a bit more comfort.  The straps are made of high quality leather and easy to adjust.

A Pink Candy Ball Gag

This ball gag, measuring about two inches in diameter, is something for the sweet toothed. Since its made out of tasty peach flavored candy it allows for a rewarding punishment of your sub. Ad this to the fact that there is something so cute about a pink gag ball that I had to include it. You just want to bite in.

Since the ball gag ties around your partners neck its easily adjusted. Let your partner dig in or tell her she’s not even allowed a lick, then get ready to punish her.

The Fantasy Gag

Measuring 1.7″ x 1.5″ this is your gag if you want your sub to have something more than a ball to chew on. The straps are made out of leather and snaps off easily. Since it can be somewhat intense for the user, this gag is good to add to the collection once your girlfriend has worked up her appetite.

Have fun, stay safe and enjoy the play!

I’m Olivia Isabey, licensed sex therapist and a freelance content creator with a genuine passion for writing. Once a week I will answer your questions at The Pleasure Keys. So if you have any question regarding sex, don’t hesitate to post them to me here. When I’m not freelancing, I’m an enthusiastic long board surfer and Ashtanga lover.

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